At 12:01 am on Tuesday, January 1, it happened again. Another year started. I am grateful. Just a couple of weeks before, we passed what many believed to be the date for the end of times. Even though it had not happened yet, it looked as though the country was not going to go over the fiscal cliff and perhaps there is hope for better times. My family and I are alive, healthy, employed, sheltered, fed, clothed, etc. I passed 25 years of marriage. I have a new nephew-in-law and a new great niece. Life is good. I have many reasons to be happy.
And, another new year started. That means I can stop thinking about all of the things that I didn’t do in 2012 as failures. They have now rolled over into goals for 2013 and I can start fresh with a new motivation to complete them. I have not failed. I am not a failure. As Congress would say, I have just sequestered those things for a few months while I continue to work on them. I have just postponed accomplishing them. They are just “yet to be done.”
I’ve never been good at “resolutions” because I can never make up my mind what I should resolve. I generally set goals in such a large quantity that it is probably humanly impossible to accomplish them. I can say that this past year, I learned a lot about myself that is going to make a difference in the coming year. It is not as though I didn’t know this before. It is just that the lack of this one particular attribute became more pronounced and, I can truly say, had an impact on everything else. Having just completed the second year of having my own business, I can state emphatically that this one thing must be corrected. This one thing is going to make a big difference.
I know your curiosity has reached it’s peak. It is hard for me, the person who has always been so high achievement oriented, to acknowledge this shortcoming. I believe –or I know–that I used to have it. I had to have had or I would not have been able to accomplish what I have in my life. I need to get it back. This is my one goal for this year. I am going to work on this more than anything else.
I need to develop my self-discipline. I need that ability to stick to what I have chosen to do. I need that focus on what I want to accomplish. I need to say no to the things that do not contribute or add value to my goals. I need to not add new things into the mix until I have at least made progress on the current “to do’s” and given them a chance to have results. I need that will power to do a little something each day for all areas of my life that need attention. Self-discipline will impact my business, enhance my health, increase my bank account, and strengthen my relationships. And, that is just a start of what it can do.
So, since it happened again–that change over to the new year, I have a new chance. I have the opportunity to make a difference in my life this year. It is my choice–it is mine to do. I can do it. As they saying goes, “If it is to be, it is up to me.”